This Thought is Stopping Confidence in Your Style
“I am not a stylish person.” Have you ever thought that or said it out loud about yourself? It feels super true because you are believing your thought that you are not fashionable. But here is the good news: it is just a thought. And this thought is killing your confidence in your style. You may not know all the style tips and tricks, and you may not have spent the time to think about who you are and what your style means to you. But that doesn’t necessarily mean you are not good at it or not capable of becoming good at it. You Don’t Have to Be Fashionable Or Trendy to…
How to Feel Confident in Your Wardrobe
Have you ever gotten dressed in the morning but you just don’t feel confident in your wardrobe? It’s not that your outfit is bad. It’s just that it’s not great either. And it doesn’t seem like it is doing anything. So you hide, and don’t try to go out of your way much. If that’s you, here is a practical guide for how to feel confident in your wardrobe! 1. Buy pieces that you love If it isn’t a 100% YES, then it doesn’t need to be in your wardrobe. It is NOT creating confidence. Of course there are basics too, but even those can be something you feel really…
How to Celebrate Your Success
Don’t use someone else’s success, someone else’s beauty, someone else’s accomplishments, someone’s else’s gifts or ideas, someone else’s opportunities against yourself. It’s easy to be happy for someone on the surface but then be harboring some jealousy or envy underneath, or maybe even resentment. Comparing to Others Success We live in a comparison world where we are constantly seeing our friends and family, news, and even people we don’t know well in groups or on social media platforms doing all kinds of things. The tendency can be to have thoughts like “that’s great for her, but I don’t have that opportunity.” Or “she is pretty so of course it works…
The Importance of Brainstorming
I’ve been taking a lot of time lately brainstorming where I want to go in my business and how to be more clear on what I am offering through my coaching. There’s sometimes a misconception that I function like a style consultant, just telling people what to wear. But really, what I love is helping people see their minds. Helping people see WHY they are making the choices they are. Helping people reach for what they are afraid they aren’t capable of. It goes so much deeper than clothing. It is about the whole lifestyle and WHO you are. It’s part of why I’m shifting my identity away from “style…
Skinny Clothes and Fat Clothes and Being Comfortable in Your Skin
I’m going to be a little bold here and say that we shouldn’t keep our skinny clothes or fat clothes in our closets. You know what I’m talking about and if you’re like me and many of my clients, you’ve had them lurking at the back of your closet, stuffed away for a while. And these clothes in a subtle way, keep us from feeling comfortable in our skin. It’s those clothes that are either just a little big, giving you a cushion for when your weight fluctuates. The “bloated” jeans, that are extra comfy but are kinda sloppy. The tiny sexy dress you’ve saved for when you FINALLY fit…
Leopard Patterned Midi Skirt Styled 6 Ways
I LOVED making this fun video! When I saw this maroon leopard patterned midi skirt at Ann Taylor Loft outlet, I knew I had to have it, even thought it is a little bit more wintery. One of my questions I ask myself when shopping, especially for statement pieces like this, is can I make at least 3 outfits from stuff I already have in my closet? If the answer is “no,” and I still really love it, is there something that could be added that I would be willing to purchase to complete the outfit? My first thought with this skirt was “I don’t know have anywhere or anything…
How to Style Clothes You Already Have
We’ve all been there. The dreaded open up my closet and have nothing to wear feeling. I’ve sat there staring at the clothes as if an outfit would magically put itself together for me! Or I’ve picked up the same tired pieces wondering how I can possibly look cute in that sweater that is 5 years old already. How has it already been 5 years since I’ve bought that thing?? It’s easy to get overwhelmed by all the constant ads of the latest greatest thing. We are so inundated by marketing where ever we look. I am a big saver, although I do like to invest in good pieces and…
How Decluttering Can Lead to More Clarity
Clutter. We all probably have that one corner that piles up with random stuff. I know when I don’t spend time on the little things it starts to pile up. And it weighs on me. If I don’t have a good routine to help make sure the little piles of mail are sorted, or the dishes are done, life starts to feel out of control. Decluttering our physical world can actually lead to more mental clarity in life. The thing is, when we have clutter around our house, it makes things feel chaotic. At least for me, when I have clutter I feel like I don’t know where to start…
“Not Enough” Thinking
Have you ever woken up and your first thought of the day was ” I did not get enough sleep”? Or have you ever felt like you didn’t have enough money in your bank account? Or maybe even things have crossed your mind like “I don’t like my job enough.” So often, our default thinking is “not enough” thinking. Common “not enough” thoughts: I’m not pretty enough. I’m not thin enough. There aren’t enough good men in the world. I’m not muscular enough. There isn’t enough money. I didn’t get enough sleep. I don’t feel well enough. I don’t have enough energy. There aren’t enough people who care. And I…
Being Stuck is a Choice
I often talk about how coaching can help you get unstuck, and it can and does because it brings awareness to the problem. But in truth it is you that gets you unstuck. Being stuck is optional, being stuck is a choice. Getting unstuck When you are feeling stuck, what is the thought behind it? That’s your queue to really think about it. What are you stuck on. Why? Seriously, writing it down will get it outside your brain. For me, it usually boils down to some kind of fear of the unknown or fear of being inadequate. I don’t want to move forward because I’m feeling scared of something.…
