“Not Enough” Thinking
Have you ever woken up and your first thought of the day was ” I did not get enough sleep”? Or have you ever felt like you didn’t have enough money in your bank account? Or maybe even things have crossed your mind like “I don’t like my job enough.” So often, our default thinking is “not enough” thinking. Common “not enough” thoughts: I’m not pretty enough. I’m not thin enough. There aren’t enough good men in the world. I’m not muscular enough. There isn’t enough money. I didn’t get enough sleep. I don’t feel well enough. I don’t have enough energy. There aren’t enough people who care. And I…
Being Stuck is a Choice
I often talk about how coaching can help you get unstuck, and it can and does because it brings awareness to the problem. But in truth it is you that gets you unstuck. Being stuck is optional, being stuck is a choice. Getting unstuck When you are feeling stuck, what is the thought behind it? That’s your queue to really think about it. What are you stuck on. Why? Seriously, writing it down will get it outside your brain. For me, it usually boils down to some kind of fear of the unknown or fear of being inadequate. I don’t want to move forward because I’m feeling scared of something.…
Living in Transformation Doesn’t Have to Be Massive to Be Effective.
This may seem counter to what we normally think, but living in transformation doesn’t have to be this big unachievable thing. Transformation can be such a weighty word. When I think of transformation, a lot of times I think of someone loosing 100 pounds, or coming out of a lifestyle that didn’t serve them. Or overcoming extreme anxiety or shyness. We think of the big transformations first, not living in the miracle of small transformations. Instant gratification and big transformations When we think this way, we are training ourselves to downplay the small transformations that we go through. This causes us to want instant gratification. “She became a millionaire seemingly…
Is Busy Better?
Today, I want to talk a little bit about the idea of “busy.” Culture today glorifies busy. We use it in our everyday conversation. “How have you been?” “Oh, I’ve been so busy!” as in busy getting stuff done in a scheduled time, or busy running around like a crazy person, unorganized doing whatever comes to mind next? Or maybe a little of both! But is busy better? Should we stay busy? Should we have scheduled time to relax? Here are a few thoughts I have related to “busy” and how instead we can focus on being more productive. Busyness or Productivity First, let’s clarify being busy vs. productivity. To…
