If I only had _____ (you fill in the blank). What is that thing that you think would make you happier, more satisfied, make life easier, or more fulfilled? For me it has been many things throughout the years and it’s kinda silly looking back on it.
The oldest example I can think of is pretty funny, actually. When I was a little girl, I wasn’t allowed to get my ears pierced until I turned 12. For some reason, turning 12 and getting my ears pierced seemed like a MAGIC number. “When I’m 12, I’ll be mature and responsible.”
Well I turned 12, and I actually somehow convinced my parents to let me get my ears pierced a year early, when I was 11, and as you can imagine neither of these things made me mature and responsible. The next magic number was 16, then 18, then 21. I think I finally discovered that I could decide if I was mature, and also that I would always keep growing and learning. The elusive “mature” wasn’t going to make me happy.
Next, it was the perfect job, if I could find the perfect job, I could move forward in other areas of my life. Or a relationship. If I found that special someone, my life would be more fulfilling and happy.
But guess what? NONE of those things provided me with internal happiness for who I am! I had to dig deeper into who I was and my uniquely God given (in my opinion – you can have your own) personality and talents. I had to operate in a place of sufficiency and abundance for who I am now. In this moment. It is only then, that I can feel abundant and happy and sufficient in my current life, and then move on toward bigger and better goals.
Focus from a place of abundance on who you will be when you have whatever it is that you want and be that person right now!
Here are some things that have helped me:
1. Have gratitude for where I am now
Gratitude is the main thing that has kept me living in a place of sufficiency and abundance. When you can find things you are thankful for now, your brain will be focusing on what you do have vs. what you don’t have.
2. Think about what I want as if it’s already done.
It’s amazing what the brain goes to work on when we decide in our head what we want.
I remember (another kid story coming up – I was a very motivated child! haha) dreaming about the perfect cat. I knew exactly what breed she would be, what color she would be, how her personality would be. If I could only have this cat. I knew, like I really KNEW that I would have this cat someday. I would get books from the library and study exactly the type of cat. And I would tirelessly research online different breeders. Everyday, I imagined my life ahead of time as if I already had this cat, how it would feel, how it would be.
Long story short, after several years of dreaming and research, I got the cat, from the Animal Shelter. It still blows my mind how perfect she is. I’m so thankful for her every day!
3. Write it down.
Go back to step two and write it down. Seriously, right now. Go do it, you can come back to this.
Ok, are you back? Awesome. Most of the time we consume content, but we don’t necessarily do anything about it, so we forget thinking we will “do it later” but I know that isn’t true for me. I’m usually on to the next thing.
Still didn’t do it? GO now! 🙂
There are so many studies that show exactly how writing down your goals can be so beneficial. I do this not only every year, but I check in with myself and evaluate how my goals are going weekly. I also go even further to break it down.
Plus, it’s fun to check off what you’ve accomplished/gotten in your life.
4. Decide who I want to be, and commit to being that person NOW.
This is probably the most important step. Whatever it is that will make you more satisfied in life, practice your life as if you are already there. If you want to attract that perfect person, be that person now. I remember I was trying online dating and came to the realization that I was really boring. Everyone was into hiking, rock climbing, biking, etc. I didn’t know anything about any of these things. I decide to become interested and explore how I could be active and interested in these things now! It wasn’t about changing who I am, it was about being a person who attracts an interesting person.
It can be used for more money in your life too, or more time…Want those things? Be the person who takes action to manage their money well. Make a budget. Make a schedule. Try things. Action breeds confidence. Confidence in who you are becoming will help you be more satisfied in life.
Live in the miracle of what is right now. When you have gratitude and sufficiency for who you are now, and who you can become, you can decide who you want to be. Be grateful, right now, for that person. You are on your way, today. You can be more satisfied in life right now.